ENTER THE SCALES
The first time I stepped on a scale was during the dark life-sucking hole known as middle school. There was a number that popped up and I knew it was calculating something about who I was. It wasn’t merely a number; it was an indicator of my identity. It was fascinating how the number would change according to what I had or had not eaten. I remember finding out through my health class what I should weigh for my height. For example, it might say that the average small-framed female that is 5’8 should weigh 128-139 pounds. EHHH, that word, “average.” I hated it and all of its synonyms: usual, ordinary, standard, typical, normal, regular.
If the average girl with my age and height weighs this number, I will be extraordinarily below that number. Diet pills, excessive working out, and watching every calorie that went into my mouth absolutely consumed my thoughts. The scale was my master. The fear of being average, or ordinary, controlled my life. I was miserable. I was starving to be full (in more than one sense of the word).
Maybe you can relate
How many mornings have we hit the snooze button on the alarm clock, not wanting to start another day because we feel the taunts and the weight of all of our failures from the day before?
Then our feet hit the floor and we hop on the instrument of torture, otherwise known as “the scale.” We weigh ourselves. Hoping to obtain that magical number of perfection that exists in our heads, we become a slave to the number. We work with all of our might to maintain, to look good, and to prove our worth. All women who stand on a scale long to be told of our worth.
This magic number is different for every woman, and it is established through our upbringings, media, and culture.
There are all different types of scales in life. They exist to tell us how we can become better, work harder, be prettier, and ultimately have more value. Scales are bossy!
The entire purpose of a scale is to measure, and so we go through life constantly weighing in and asking, “Do I measure up?” “Am I enough?”
However, it’s not just our body-size that we measure.
We weigh in at home. Do I cook healthy enough? Is my home as clean as hers? Am I reading enough with my children? Is my sex life as exciting as theirs? Am I enough?
We weigh in at work and church. Does my performance meet everyone’s expectations? At church, do I serve enough? Have I had enough “quiet times” this week to truly be accepted by God (and not to be rebuked by my small group members)? Am I enough?
We weigh in on social media. Few things add more weight to our lives than Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter. Is my life as exciting as hers? Am I enough?
Weighing in becomes a roller coaster. Not in the fun way, but in the “I just ate the entire funnel cake and lemon shakeup before I got on the Tilt-A-Whirl, and things are about to get really messy!”
It’s a roller coaster because that number we want to achieve and the definition of perfection continually changes. Our expectations of ourselves change like the wind. The world’s expectations of women change every time Vogue puts out a new magazine. Expectations can be fickle.
Who we are is not how much we “weigh.” We are more than a number. Our worth cannot be measured standing on scales. If we find our identity in the scales of this world, we become either heavy with pride or crushed with the weight of our inadequacies. The pendulum continually swings. One day we are on the top of the world, the next day we despair of life itself. One day we wear the crown, and the next day we are nothing more than a reject.
Drop Weight Instantly
The problem is we have been looking at our performance but we should be looking to the performance of another. Looking to self will always leave us tangled under the covers of condemnation.
Paul tells us to get our focus off the mirror of the law and look into the mirror of grace.
We will grow weary when we focus on “To Do list,” instead focus on the already done list.
Paul Takes A Plunger to The Soul When He says…
“Not that we are sufficient in ourselves to claim anything as coming from us, but our sufficiency is from God, who has made us competent to be ministers of a new covenant, not of the letter(law) but of the spirit.
Our sufficiency is from God!
It is by the mercy of God that we have been given what we have been given! It is All about Him! For Him- By Him-To Him-Through Him….The world revolves around Him. The world does not revolve around me and this is great news! So I can release my death grip on the my kingdom….stop spinning out of control with my schedules, and charts and scales!
Your worth is found in a man!…his name is Jesus. Jesus took on the full weight of our sin at the cross and because He conquered death, we can throw off the covers of condemnation and live!
Step off the scales and feel the weight fall right off! His Yoke is easy and His burden is light.